Massacre of an ordinary life: Film captures friends' post-October 7 struggles

“I do not know if resilience is unique to women, but this group embodies it powerfully,” Canadian-Israeli filmmaker Igal Hecht says. Hecht produced and edited Where Do We Belong?, a new documentary about a group of women at Kibbutz Kfar Aza in the months after October 7. PHOTO COURTESY OF IGAL HECHTArticle contentWhen Hamas attacked Kibbutz Kfar Aza on Oct. 7, 2023, a WhatsApp chat connected women living through the assault in real time. In the months and years since, the chat group has remained a communication link for survivors who lost relatives, homes and the ordinary lives they once shared.

That group is at the centre of Where Do We Belong?, a new documentary produced and edited by Canadian-Israeli filmmaker Igal Hecht and directed by Israeli filmmaker Dotan Nave. Rather than retelling Oct. 7 through the attack itself, the film follows its longer trajectory of two and a half years: grief, displacement, medical recovery, parenthood, group meetings and the difficult prospect of beginning again.

The film premieres on Israel’s Channel 8 on Oct. 5. It will then screen Oct. 7 at Toronto’s Zionist Centre and Oct. 8 at Vancouver’s Norman Rothstein Theatre, as part of the Vancouver Jewish Film Festival.

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Hecht, born in Israel and raised in Toronto, will attend both Canadian screenings for post-film Q&As.

Over a career spanning nearly three decades, Hecht has produced more than 70 documentary films and 25 television series.

Dave Gordon interviewed Hecht for the National Post.

What did following these women for more than two years allow you to show that an immediate account of Oct. 7 could not?

You see the mourning process unfold and, especially with Jessica, the realization that there is no alternative but to move forward. These women endured the tragedy together in real time through their WhatsApp group. They lost loved ones and are deeply interconnected, as happens in a close-knit kibbutz. Their friendship became a support system: they mourned together, moved together, and have chosen to remain neighbours through three relocations. The film shows how essential that kind of support is — not only after October 7, but in life generally.

You and Dotan began filming three weeks after Oct. 7. Why make the women’s group the narrative spine?